10 Things I’ve Learned from Traveling (with my husband of 34 years)

By |2017-11-28T21:49:47+00:00December 23, 2011|Categories: Our Travel Life, Packing Tips, Resources|7 Comments

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery

1. The morning is for people who have someplace to go. The afternoon is for wandering around aimlessly, long lunches, reading, or napping. Do what you need to do in the morning or you’ll never get it done. If you arrive at a bank or office after hours, you can be sure it won’t open again for three days.

2. Look like you know where you are going (or follow someone who does.) You’ll be subject to fewer hassles, vendor attacks, and restaurant pitches. And sometimes, if you stay the course, you might get to where you are going.

10 Things I've Learned

Safe Travels to the Other Side

3. If you have to consult each other or a map, pull over to one side of the walk or, better yet, find a bench. (DO NOT stop at the top of the subway stairs to ponder your next move. I will run you over.) Avoid yelling across the terminal, “No! This way!” First, you can’t be heard because you are walking away as you speak, and second, you could be wrong, in which case, I ask, “Exactly where is the sign that makes you think you are going to the bus stop, (you idiot)?” Of course, the last is unspoken, and the question isn’t asked unless you are absolutely certain the bus stop is in the opposite direction from where the idiot is walking.

4. No one wants to take your word for it. Both travelers want to know the flight number, check-in desk number, gate number, and boarding time. Carry your own boarding pass, your own shit, and pay attention as if you were on your own, or soon you will be.

5. Just because you are traveling together doesn’t mean you have to talk to each other.

the Angel Wannabe

the Angel Wannabe

6. Expectations and other pitfalls: Don’t plan too far in advance. Don’t expect your travel to go as planned. Don’t be fueled by inflated expectations. Don’t expect you can see everything everywhere. Assume you can stand just about any place for a day; if you still don’t like it, move on. (This is a good argument for not using pre-paid accommodations.) Cheaper is better. But once in a while treat yourself by moving up to a nice hotel for a night, or sending your laundry out.

7. Get some background. Float your upcoming destination to friends through Facebook or similar, and ask for connections and recommendations from travelers you meet along the way. We met friends or friends of friends in Quito, Santiago de Chile, Istanbul, Milan, and certainly used research, Trip Advisor, and guidebooks to help steer us in the right direction. Reading about the history and culture of the place you are visiting makes it more enjoyable and gives you are starting place for conversation with locals.

8. Tour groups: avoid them. If necessary, make sure it is small group (under 10 people) and that you and the guide have some language in common. We’ve seen groups of 40-50 emerge from archeological sites like clowns from a circus car. Hey, did you get some nice pictures?
Crowds: avoid them. Crowds come and go in waves even at the busiest sites. Ask for the best time to visit and return later.
Guides: There are the best of guides, there are the worst of guides. Often it’s luck of the draw, but you can ask beforehand if the tour can be altered along the way according to your wishes. (Or in our case, in Turkey during the off-season, we had a couple excellent guides all to ourselves, because our flight was late and the group left without us. We hit it off and were exclusively with the driver/guide for three days. Another time, our small group agreed to skip a craft demonstration/shopping site.)
On our own: This is what we love best. For example, we were told to allow 5-6 hours to visit Pompeii ruins. Tour groups often cover it in two hours. We spent nearly ten hours roaming around, retracing our steps to see some especially cool stuff, and were satisfied we’d really taken it in when the day ended.

9. Get a local phone so you can be in touch with people you meet along the way, contact drivers or taxis, your hotel, your travel companion, or anyone else you might want to call when you are lost or late. We kept in touch with friends we made along the Camino in Spain, shared tips, and set up meeting places later.

10. Enjoy making fun of the tourists, especially Americans, at all times in all places. But insist you are a resident and deny that your curly, light hair and predictable wardrobe make you stand out.

See? I never look where i'm going.

See? I never look where i’m going.

11. Bonus
Every time you leave home, take less.

And, for discussion:
If you are asked if you’d like help carrying a bag, do you say yes or no? I say it depends on whether you’d like to be chastised for packing too much or ridiculed for being extremely stubborn and never accepting help from anyone.

Mr. Traveler has commented on this post, and here’s his side of the story:
10 Things I Learned from Traveling – Travel Past 50

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  1. Deb mccart July 17, 2013 at 10:13 pm - Reply

    True. And funny. I’ve also learned most of these but not been so clear about articulating than. Day tours can save tremendous time, so do have value; and the local cell phone is an extravagance but makes thing so much simpler that it’s well worth the small cost. Keep on

    • Kristin Henning July 18, 2013 at 2:55 pm - Reply

      Thanks, Deb. Looking back at this post, I’m inspired to update this-or at least expand on it. Stay tuned.

  2. Rhonda March 4, 2014 at 2:42 pm - Reply

    I just came across your website from seeing your comment on Candace’s facebook page. My husband and I are still in our 40’s but, often, feel ancient compared to all of the 20-somethings out and about wandering the world (and wonder what the hell was wrong with us that we weren’t smart enough to start long term travel then!)

    • Tom Bartel March 4, 2014 at 2:58 pm - Reply

      Rhonda, it’s never too late. We did a lot of traveling when we were 20-somethings, took time off to have a couple of kids, a house, a business, and a dog. When the kids got old enough, we divested back to our 20-something state and got back at it.

      • Rhonda March 4, 2014 at 5:56 pm - Reply

        Oh don’t we know it! Working in the travel industry my husband & I have been to over 40 countries on five continents, including a 14mth backpacking trip around the world in 2007-2008. We’ve been back in Oregon for the last few years, currently planning to sell it all again and drive the PanAm highway to Patagonia in 2015 and beyond. It is nice to see other, lol, “over 30’s” out there enjoying the world.

        • Kristin March 25, 2014 at 11:40 am - Reply

          Rhonda, I missed your comment earlier, but want to catch up by saying i LOVED the movie, Up. Best wishes for your plans along the PanAm highway and beyond. Will you take your dog(s)? Let’s stay in touch.

          • Rhonda March 25, 2014 at 9:40 pm - Reply

            Hi Kristin, Glad you’ve seen UP and loved it, not as many people have seen it as I had suspected! Yep, both dogs are going to be hitting the road with us to South America. Would love to keep in touch. Are you guys going to be at Overland Expo in Arizona in May?

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